When I was a kid, I enjoyed playing chess. I was part of my school chess club, part of the first team and at one time actually won the local county (amt) championship in my age group.
Chess was fun and interesting. And taught me a couple of important lessons about life;
Looking and planning ahead a few moves is cool. But if it comes at the expense of taking your eye of the ball of what’s happening right here and right now, you’re still going to loose.
So. Keep. Your. Eyes. On. The. Ball.
On the other hand; if you’re acting too quickly in the spur of the moment and not showing enough patience to completely your next move so it ends being a wise one, you’re also going to loose.
As in all other aspects a life, it is a question about balance.
Don’t overthink, don’t stress.
Contemplate the situation – state of play.
Think in options and alternatives.
Make the move that seems to bring you closer towards your objective while at the same time preserving your interests.
Repeat. And repeat. Etc.
More people should really take up chess.