Back in the day I had a very experienced direct report who I used as a sounding board for thoughts and ideas to bring forward to executive management.
We would meet in my office (even though technically I didn’t have one), and we would go through the arguments, I had thought of making.
If I was off track, he would say in a very calm voice, while quietly shaking his head:
“Mads, that is junior behavior”.
And then he would follow it up with his interpretation of what senior behavior, aka the right sort of behavior, mingling, getting my point across needed to be successful with that particular project in that particular organization would be instead.
I listened. I better; he was usually right.
Since then I have always treasured having a sounding board and someone to lean on when things become a big hectic.
It is a nice contrast to my normal passionate, energetic ‘give-it-my-all-(alone)’-approach I often find myself (inadvertently) taking.
What I probably should become better at is making sure that I use the sounding board, when I need to and don’t leave it too long. But that too is a journey and learning experience waiting to be converted.
Into senior behavior.